From Friend to Life Partner

Life is very beautiful and some relationships make it more beautiful. A relationship where two unknown people promise to carry on for life. We live in a society where arranged marriage is emphasized. Husband-wife is a precious relationship made by God, there are many things in the husband-wife relationship, which makes their relationship stronger over time, it is said that wife without a husband is incomplete and husband without a wife. Together they complete this relationship.

 

 

Now the question arises how two people make this relationship beautiful. This task is difficult but not impossible because we promise to live with each other throughout our lives, and it is necessary to live together, first to make this relationship beautiful, which makes life even easier and this relationship where we never feel burdened.

A very beautiful feeling from a friend to Spouse. The dialogue of a Hindi film is: -

"Pyar ka pehla kadam bhi dosti hai aur akhri bhi"

This relationship also starts with friendship, the way we feel, relaxed with our friends, just like we have to feel with our spouse, Then, what is the thinking, the first step of the relationship should be friendship because it is very important to know each other before starting any relationship and it is also important to know the evils along with the good, this idea will strengthen our relationship. Because there is no good or bad condition in friendship. How we accept our friends as they are? Just like we have to accept our spouse as well. We should share all our beliefs, our likes, and dislikes with our spouses, without any hesitation, after all, now she is our soul mate.

 

We always have complaints that our spouse does not give us time to a large extent, this is also true. We get so busy in our working life that we are not able to take time out for our loved ones. Now, where half the world is running, we have a golden chance that by staying at home, we should give more time to our spouses, maybe this time do not come again, we should use this time well for ourselves. Sitting with Spouse, we should share all the things and stuff which we could not even speak on wishing, that too due to lack of time, now we have time to share our things, so please use this time to know more about your spouse. Share your thoughts, your hopes, your fear. Your passion is to tell your partner who you really are. Set something different every day just talks about the things that are important to each of you, as individuals. This is one of the most important things to strengthen your relationship.

Trust between husband-wife relationship is very important, we should trust each other, trust makes our relationship strong, and trust is the only one which does not allow our relationship to break. When we trust our spouse, then the outsider cannot try to break our relationship, we cannot bring a rift between us. This is the power of trust, so it is very important to trust your spouse. So, that's how our relationship becomes strong in front of the world.

Respect each other's wishes, respect each other, never insult your partner in the matter of always proving yourself right, nor try to ever let your partner down, because the honor is given by you. It also comes in the eyes of others, so maintain the dignity of a relationship so that people do not take advantage of it wrongly.

 

Do not let the anger come between each other, if both husband and wife understand each other, then anger and pride will never come between them. Never show yourself big, make others aware, take each other's advice and decide by swinging, which is good for both, by doing this, this can improve understanding.

No human is perfect, so do not make mistakes in each other, but give a chance to rectify mistakes, bring so much strength in your love that the person in front of you can improve his shortcomings without saying, love will have great power. If you make a person good, then give your partner a chance, then see the magic of your love. Everything will be good; this life will become more beautiful.

Let your love never end, you can't go on a date like before, so what happened, work in the kitchen together at home, help each other, I think that kitchen is the most romantic place, cook with love. And feed each other, try it and it feels very good.

After marriage, there are many changes in the life of both of them and we have to accept that because our life is not the same, with a new person, we also get with a new family, satisfaction i.e., with each other while living, take satisfaction in whatever happiness and convenience you get according to time and situation. In marital life, it is also necessary for the husband and wife to have complete dedication and sacrifice towards each other. Giving up or compromising some of their wishes and needs for each other is very important to maintain a romantic relationship. If we live in our first life then we will not be able to enjoy this new life or be happy.

 

With all this, we will be able to live a good and happy life with our life partner.

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Little thing to become BFF

“Being a good friend makes life easier. They are not able to solve all the problems, but they definitely make every difficulty easy.”

Over the years the only thing I realized from life and the number of people whom I’m connected with is only because of the clingy bond called friendship, and this means a much more than like, dislikes and emoji.

 

I’m sure, there must be a friend in everyone's life. We get a different peace of mind by talking to friends; we cannot define this feeling in words. Have you ever given a thought why the bond between you and your buddy is best? It’s because friendship is played without selfishness. Apart from friendship, there is no relationship that is selfless. That is why friendship is always called a true and firm relationship. Friends are bastards but these bastards are very understanding and supportive. And we know they are just a call away from us, with them every difficulty becomes easy as pie. Even when things are not going in the right direction and we want to be alone, they do not leave us.

Now, I am damn sure, a silly question revolves around everyone mind, who is our BFF then? And we have to accept this, we meet a lot of people in our life but all of them are not true friends, some of them are just friends with whom we go out, to relax stress and watch movies but we somehow also knew, they are not the ones with whom we can share our emotions.

The reality is we share our emotions with people who understand us, friends that do not need to explain everything, they stay with us to cheer good times and stay in bad times for consoling and giving hopes, they keep our secrets, and they accept you as you are and always motivate to become a better version of you.

From the moment when we learn to walk, we all have dozens of people which we call them our friends, but as time passes, as we grew older, the list keeps reducing. I think this is the story of everyone.

Little things to become anyone your Best Friend Forever (BFF): -

1. Comfort Zone - Friend circles of good and real friends create a comfort zone for you. They accept you as you are ... all your qualities and demerits, your strengths and weaknesses, all your good and bad habits. You put your life living like an open book for them and that’s the best thing, we don't have to think before speaking anything in front of them. Formalities like manners are not required in friendship. You can talk undoubtedly anything like a relationship you’re in or in a fling you just had because you are that much comfortable. There are no boundaries when it comes to your best buddy.

2. A best friend is our own made family - One family give us by God and the other family we make ourselves which has people we choose. We can’t choose our family members but we can choose our best friend, friends are family the family gets to choose, your brother from another mother or your sister from another mister. Best friends are your extended family.  What we cannot share with our own family, we can do with them, and this is the biggest benefit of this family. We can disturb them by calling them at any time, we can tell our problem. They will try to solve each of our problems.

3. Unconditional love - There is no condition for love in friendship, we accept them as they are best friends accept you and all your flaws. They don’t expect perfection. Friendship is not a selfish thing, but a living faith. Where there is a responsibility to be happy, to laugh, to joke, to be in crisis. True attempts are made here, no false promises. Friendship does not see rich poverty; friendship only sees true love and trust. Friendship is never seen by skin color, there is no condition of true friendship, it is absolutely pure.

4. Emotional Support - Good friends are always ready to listen to you. Either you are going through a difficult phase or emotionally disturbed, they are always there to support you. Sometimes we need people who can listen to us without coming to a decision and forming an opinion about us. When being alone it's hard for some of us to face the situation. When friends are together, we don't feel the need to cry. You have to be willing to give as much as you want to get, A good friend will never let you down, he will help you in every way, and one day he will heal you like a flower again.

 

5. Honest opinions - Your best or real friends know you well; sometimes better than you do yourself—and are not afraid to tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.  They will judge you without bias and show you what is right and what is not. When I need my friends the most. I consult them to sort things out. Most of their advice helps me in taking a strong decision. However, I know they are not able to change the situation or circumstances but at least they can help me by reminding me that I am just a human being and I do not have to put too much pressure on myself. Saying that much can help to reduce the pain and I feel better by just expressing my problems to them. Friends are there to guide us at every step.

In the end, I just want to say friends are those parts of life which make your life really, live longer, with more laugher and less fear.

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5 questions raised when we talk about Women's Empowerment

In this era of mobile and internet, I believe all of us know what blogging is and if you are not clued-up then a one-liner answer would be “Blogging is something where we penning down our thoughts. We share it on the internet and let the world read it and get help from it.” And I find the internet as the best medium where empowered women write something to help other women, we call it as women empowering women. 

 

And when it comes to empowering women, we all should know what it means. So, to make it easy for you I have pointed out 5 questions that were raised when we talk about Women Empowerment.

Q- What is Women’s Empowerment?

Women's empowerment can be defined in very simple terms that it makes women powerful so that they can make every decision related to their life themselves and live well in family and society. Empowering women to make them independent in all aspects of mind, thought and decision and to achieve their real rights in society is women empowerment. Several schemes have been launched by the Indian government to bring women into the mainstream of development. So, that she can deal with a problem in society better than men.

Q- What is Women's Empowerment: Challenges and Prospects?

Why do we only talk about the empowerment of women instead of male empowerment? Why do women need empowerment and men do not? About 50% of the total population of the world is women, yet why does this large section of society need empowerment? Women are not even in the minority to require any special assistance. On the basis of facts, it is a proven argument that women are better than men in everything. So, here the question arises that why are we discussing the topic of 'women empowerment'?

Q- Why the need for Women’s Empowerment?

Empowerment has been needed for centuries to free women from exploitation and discrimination by men; the voice of women is suppressed in every way. Women are the targets of various forms of violence and discriminatory practices being carried out by men worldwide.

India is also not untouched. India is a complex country. A variety of customs, traditions, and practices have evolved here over the centuries. These customs and traditions, some good and some bad, have become a part of the collective consciousness of our society. To get out of all this, we need empowerment: for the development of our society, for violence against women in our society, for the campaign for female education, for empowering women through skill development challenges and opportunities, for gender equality, we need women empowerment. 

To honor women in Indian society, it is a tradition to worship women ladies as a mother, sister, daughter, wife, but this does not mean that just by worshiping women, the need for the development of the country will be fulfilled; it is necessary to kill all those monstrous thoughts that kill their rights and values in a society like illiteracy, dowry, feticide, domestic violence, human trafficking and what not.

Q- How small things can make differences to empower women and girls?

1. Provide them food, clean water and take care of their hygiene: Did you know most of the girls and women are not getting healthy food and clean water which is very dangerous to their health.

2. Support them in crisis: Millions of girls are subjected to abuse, human trafficking, child labour, and other offenses. What you can do is provide them a small business loan, tell them the value of education, provide them counseling and many more. Donate food, health care products, sanitary pads, old books and many more.

3. Mentor a girl close to home:  Reach out to girls coming from poor families or held by poverty and any kind of violence in your area or community and volunteer them as a mentor or tutors.  

4. Invest in small business owners: Reach out too hard-working female entrepreneurs and offer them a small loan so that they can expand their business.

5. Use your voice to help keep a girl in schools: Educate families to keep their girls in school so that they can live a better life, how quality education can make them earn higher wages, talk to them to marry later and make them actively participate in community life.

6. Help a new mom: The 2 years of a child and mother's life are most critical. You can save lives by giving mothers essentials like cloth, diapers, clean water, soap, oils, and blankets.

7. Tell the women in your life that you care: Start from your home, workplace, community and tell your mother, sister, wife, daughter how much you love them and appreciate them.

Q- Role of Women’s in the Nation’s progress.

This International Women’s Day(March 8^th) all over the world, the government has initiated various schemes for empowering women. These range from community awareness and welfare of the girl child to women’s safety. 

  

Here are some of the schemes that started by Government(https://wcd.nic.in/schemes-listing/2405) by changing the lives of women’s in rural and urban areas:

1. Beti Bachao Beti Padhao Scheme

2. One-Stop Centre Scheme

3. Women Helpline Scheme

4. UJJAWALA : A Comprehensive Scheme for Prevention of trafficking and Rescue, Rehabilitation and Re-integration of Victims of Trafficking and Commercial Sexual Exploitation

5. Working Women Hostel

6. Ministry approves new projects under Ujjawala Scheme and continues existing projects

7. SWADHAR Greh (A Scheme for Women in Difficult Circumstances)

8. Support to Training and Employment Programme for Women (STEP)

9. NARI SHAKTI PURASKAR

10. Awardees of Stree Shakti Puruskar, 2014 & Awardees of Nari Shakti Puruskar

11. Awardees of Rajya Mahila Samman & Zila Mahila Samman

12. Mahila E-Haat

13. Mahila Shakti Kendras (MSK)

14. NIRBHAYA

15. Mahila Police Volunteers

In the end, I would say, women, are proving their worth in every field. Now, the time is changing, today's educated woman can change the whole society, as well as give a good life to their children. When the women of our country become educated. Only then we can say that the conditions of women in our country are getting better. Just as, men do not need any help. In the same way, a day will also come when women too will not have to depend on anyone to solve anything. And on that day, the dream of empowerment of women will be seen.

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