From Friend to Life Partner

Life is very beautiful and some relationships make it more beautiful. A relationship where two unknown people promise to carry on for life. We live in a society where arranged marriage is emphasized. Husband-wife is a precious relationship made by God, there are many things in the husband-wife relationship, which makes their relationship stronger over time, it is said that wife without a husband is incomplete and husband without a wife. Together they complete this relationship.

 

 

Now the question arises how two people make this relationship beautiful. This task is difficult but not impossible because we promise to live with each other throughout our lives, and it is necessary to live together, first to make this relationship beautiful, which makes life even easier and this relationship where we never feel burdened.

A very beautiful feeling from a friend to Spouse. The dialogue of a Hindi film is: -

"Pyar ka pehla kadam bhi dosti hai aur akhri bhi"

This relationship also starts with friendship, the way we feel, relaxed with our friends, just like we have to feel with our spouse, Then, what is the thinking, the first step of the relationship should be friendship because it is very important to know each other before starting any relationship and it is also important to know the evils along with the good, this idea will strengthen our relationship. Because there is no good or bad condition in friendship. How we accept our friends as they are? Just like we have to accept our spouse as well. We should share all our beliefs, our likes, and dislikes with our spouses, without any hesitation, after all, now she is our soul mate.

 

We always have complaints that our spouse does not give us time to a large extent, this is also true. We get so busy in our working life that we are not able to take time out for our loved ones. Now, where half the world is running, we have a golden chance that by staying at home, we should give more time to our spouses, maybe this time do not come again, we should use this time well for ourselves. Sitting with Spouse, we should share all the things and stuff which we could not even speak on wishing, that too due to lack of time, now we have time to share our things, so please use this time to know more about your spouse. Share your thoughts, your hopes, your fear. Your passion is to tell your partner who you really are. Set something different every day just talks about the things that are important to each of you, as individuals. This is one of the most important things to strengthen your relationship.

Trust between husband-wife relationship is very important, we should trust each other, trust makes our relationship strong, and trust is the only one which does not allow our relationship to break. When we trust our spouse, then the outsider cannot try to break our relationship, we cannot bring a rift between us. This is the power of trust, so it is very important to trust your spouse. So, that's how our relationship becomes strong in front of the world.

Respect each other's wishes, respect each other, never insult your partner in the matter of always proving yourself right, nor try to ever let your partner down, because the honor is given by you. It also comes in the eyes of others, so maintain the dignity of a relationship so that people do not take advantage of it wrongly.

 

Do not let the anger come between each other, if both husband and wife understand each other, then anger and pride will never come between them. Never show yourself big, make others aware, take each other's advice and decide by swinging, which is good for both, by doing this, this can improve understanding.

No human is perfect, so do not make mistakes in each other, but give a chance to rectify mistakes, bring so much strength in your love that the person in front of you can improve his shortcomings without saying, love will have great power. If you make a person good, then give your partner a chance, then see the magic of your love. Everything will be good; this life will become more beautiful.

Let your love never end, you can't go on a date like before, so what happened, work in the kitchen together at home, help each other, I think that kitchen is the most romantic place, cook with love. And feed each other, try it and it feels very good.

After marriage, there are many changes in the life of both of them and we have to accept that because our life is not the same, with a new person, we also get with a new family, satisfaction i.e., with each other while living, take satisfaction in whatever happiness and convenience you get according to time and situation. In marital life, it is also necessary for the husband and wife to have complete dedication and sacrifice towards each other. Giving up or compromising some of their wishes and needs for each other is very important to maintain a romantic relationship. If we live in our first life then we will not be able to enjoy this new life or be happy.

 

With all this, we will be able to live a good and happy life with our life partner.

Please comment on your views and share your experiences.

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Little thing to become BFF

“Being a good friend makes life easier. They are not able to solve all the problems, but they definitely make every difficulty easy.”

Over the years the only thing I realized from life and the number of people whom I’m connected with is only because of the clingy bond called friendship, and this means a much more than like, dislikes and emoji.

 

I’m sure, there must be a friend in everyone's life. We get a different peace of mind by talking to friends; we cannot define this feeling in words. Have you ever given a thought why the bond between you and your buddy is best? It’s because friendship is played without selfishness. Apart from friendship, there is no relationship that is selfless. That is why friendship is always called a true and firm relationship. Friends are bastards but these bastards are very understanding and supportive. And we know they are just a call away from us, with them every difficulty becomes easy as pie. Even when things are not going in the right direction and we want to be alone, they do not leave us.

Now, I am damn sure, a silly question revolves around everyone mind, who is our BFF then? And we have to accept this, we meet a lot of people in our life but all of them are not true friends, some of them are just friends with whom we go out, to relax stress and watch movies but we somehow also knew, they are not the ones with whom we can share our emotions.

The reality is we share our emotions with people who understand us, friends that do not need to explain everything, they stay with us to cheer good times and stay in bad times for consoling and giving hopes, they keep our secrets, and they accept you as you are and always motivate to become a better version of you.

From the moment when we learn to walk, we all have dozens of people which we call them our friends, but as time passes, as we grew older, the list keeps reducing. I think this is the story of everyone.

Little things to become anyone your Best Friend Forever (BFF): -

1. Comfort Zone - Friend circles of good and real friends create a comfort zone for you. They accept you as you are ... all your qualities and demerits, your strengths and weaknesses, all your good and bad habits. You put your life living like an open book for them and that’s the best thing, we don't have to think before speaking anything in front of them. Formalities like manners are not required in friendship. You can talk undoubtedly anything like a relationship you’re in or in a fling you just had because you are that much comfortable. There are no boundaries when it comes to your best buddy.

2. A best friend is our own made family - One family give us by God and the other family we make ourselves which has people we choose. We can’t choose our family members but we can choose our best friend, friends are family the family gets to choose, your brother from another mother or your sister from another mister. Best friends are your extended family.  What we cannot share with our own family, we can do with them, and this is the biggest benefit of this family. We can disturb them by calling them at any time, we can tell our problem. They will try to solve each of our problems.

3. Unconditional love - There is no condition for love in friendship, we accept them as they are best friends accept you and all your flaws. They don’t expect perfection. Friendship is not a selfish thing, but a living faith. Where there is a responsibility to be happy, to laugh, to joke, to be in crisis. True attempts are made here, no false promises. Friendship does not see rich poverty; friendship only sees true love and trust. Friendship is never seen by skin color, there is no condition of true friendship, it is absolutely pure.

4. Emotional Support - Good friends are always ready to listen to you. Either you are going through a difficult phase or emotionally disturbed, they are always there to support you. Sometimes we need people who can listen to us without coming to a decision and forming an opinion about us. When being alone it's hard for some of us to face the situation. When friends are together, we don't feel the need to cry. You have to be willing to give as much as you want to get, A good friend will never let you down, he will help you in every way, and one day he will heal you like a flower again.

 

5. Honest opinions - Your best or real friends know you well; sometimes better than you do yourself—and are not afraid to tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.  They will judge you without bias and show you what is right and what is not. When I need my friends the most. I consult them to sort things out. Most of their advice helps me in taking a strong decision. However, I know they are not able to change the situation or circumstances but at least they can help me by reminding me that I am just a human being and I do not have to put too much pressure on myself. Saying that much can help to reduce the pain and I feel better by just expressing my problems to them. Friends are there to guide us at every step.

In the end, I just want to say friends are those parts of life which make your life really, live longer, with more laugher and less fear.

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Music - To keep you calm and stress-free

When people ask me, how to stay calm in an extremely tense and lonely situation. I asked them, wanna interested in listening to my playlist. Well, I love listening to music because MUSIC takes me to some other world far away from the world's stresses… No tension, just ease of mind and relaxation… music has the power to flip your mood. It can make you believe and sense the meaning of your existence in a single moment. There are a lot of songs that we all listen to in our daily life but there are few songs that touched our hearts. Sometimes those songs also make us cry too. I'm sure you have also felt the same. I’m going to start with this line from ‘meri pyaari bindo’-1A “kuch gaane apki zindagi se yoon hi judh jaate hain, unki dhun mein lipte hote hai chote badhe kisse, kayi saari yaadein".

That’s how this time I come up with the idea to write a Music Blog for my two evergreen songs whose lyrics make a lot of sense.

1. Song - MOH MOH KE DHAAGE (2015)

Movie - Dum Laga Ke Haisha

Lyrics By – Varun Grover

Vocals – Papon and Monali Thakur

 

Life and human emotions are very unpredictable, things that seem normal to you can appear in a different sense.  Same goes with songs, you've heard them a million times and suddenly make a whole new sense to you. "Moh Moh Ke Dhaage" by Papon and Monali, is that song for me.  From the whole song, my favorite line is “Tu hoga zara pagal, tune mujhko hai chuna.” When someone chooses you with all your flaws and imperfections and you don’t believe that, how can they choose you? Prem and Sandhya, a couple from the 90s two misfits, brought together by destiny (and their parents), who somehow find glimpses of each other, and realize that they are together. People who have been told they are “different” their whole life and when they meet, realize that they have been the same kind of different all along. This song is all about simple love between two common people.

“Tu din sa hai, main raat, aa na dono, mil jaayein shaamo ki tarah” this line describes that we both are so different but love for each other is sufficient. "Ke aisa beparwah mann pehle toh na tha, chitthiyon ko jaise mil gaya, jaise ek naya sa pata" love is a heavy word more than shapes or sizes.  It’s more than proposals or dates. It’s about holding hands and supporting each other’s crazy dreams. About Maggi at 2:00 AM and the weird funny face one makes when the other is crying. Love is not that difficult. Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world when you get your perfect better half at the right time.

2. Song – KAHIN TO HOGI WOH (2008)

Movie - Jaane Tu… Ya Jaane Na

Lyrics By – Abbas Tyrewala

Vocals – Rashid Ali and Vasundhara Das

Music Composer – A.R. Rahman

 

Rahman sir, your composition and Rashid sir, how beautifully you compose this song to the girl, who didn’t feel the same for you. “Kahin toh... kahin toh, hogi woh, duniya jahan tu mere saath hai”.  The perfect line to grab all my attention. You put your feeling into words so perfectly, to tell her that there has to be someplace in this world where she can be with you. You wanted her to know that if not now, then sometimes in the later life you could be together, where it would be only you and her with only love in the air. You wanted to create a new world for her. A world was full of love. As the song continues and moves smoothly through all the feelings in your heart, instantly I can feel the same chilling and goosebumps when you said, “Jaane naa kahan woh duniya hai,  jaane naa woh hai bhi ya nahi. Jahan meri zindagi mujhse, itni khafa nahi.” And when you said this, I felt you. You were fearsomely scared to not know the time; the time when she will be yours forever. Scared of being sure if the book of your destiny had her name on it.

And Rashid's good thing is, she was in love with you too! She said “Mein kho gayi hu, jaane kiski baahon mein” she was with someone else but confused if that was the right place, or she didn’t feel wanted there, she didn’t feel the spark there and maybe she didn’t feel at home in his arms and that was an indication that she was in love with you. But Rashid don’t you worry. Love won’t be mean to you. As it is said, “where there is great love, there are always miracles.” Anyone can relate to your love for her because there is always someone special in our life and the problem with us is that we think we are not for each other or our destiny is different but still we love them with all our hearts.

☹ + MUSIC = 😊

Now that you know what makes me feel light and what I like to listen, comment on your views and please share us your song and artist, help make your work done.

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